What To Buy Your Friend Who’s Just Given Birth
Of course it’s fun when your best mate gives birth and you get to go shopping for newborn stuff without the looming dread of sleepless nights, labour and a battered vagina, but don’t neglect the fact you could bag yourself some serious girlfriend points by buying mum-friendly treats as opposed to (or as well as) ones for the teeny tiny bundle of fun.
While it’s absolutely lovely your friends want to shower the life you’ve created with presents, more often that not you’ve already bought everything. Or your tastes aren’t quite the same. Or it’s stuff which isn’t practical (we were gifted around 7 pairs of boots/shoes when Milo was first born, he wore none of them). Going out there and getting some bits and pieces for a broken woman who could really do with some pick me ups is definitely the way to go, so I thought I’d pop some suggestions below, ranging from budget to pricey. I’d also like to just confirm none of this is sponsored, none of these products are being sent to me, I’m basically just putting out what I’D find heartwarming to the point of tears if *I* was handed something from a friend post birth. I get so many emails weekly asking for suggestions on where to shop for friends/relatives from people who don’t really have a clue where to start, so I thought it’d be a nice thing to put together. Happy shopping!
I totally didn’t get the candle thing ’til I became a mum. I remember my own mum waffling on about them and thinking it was a bit odd. Sure, they smell nice but why on earth would you spend good money on burning something when you could be buying clothes/food? The key point here is that it’s a VERY. SIMPLE. PLEASURE, and that’s what mum-presents are all about. Little snippets of calm & creating a sanctuary at home. I love nothing more than knowing Milo’s asleep in bed and firing up a beautiful smelling candle, it genuinely does make me really happy (plus if you’ve got a dog/dogs it means you can trick yourself in to thinking your house is clean). My three recommendations are as follows;
You spend quite a bit of time in your comfies in the early days of mum hood. It’s not restrictive on the swollen breasts and recovering… y’know, plus it’s invariably what you change in to a couple of times a day when the baby’s decided to throw up all over you. Some days, you just can’t be bothered bothering with clothes. Pyjamas are key to recovery & so what better gift than a brand spanking new pair to make your pal feel like she’s stylish without even getting dressed? I would say to make sure you know what size to opt for first & go for darker colours over light to prevent any post birth leaking causing unsightly stains. My favourite picks would be;
Sometimes, as a mum-to-be, you’re given bath products in boxsets which smell divine, look amazing on your shelf… but never get used. In those first few months (especially during first time motherhood) you barely get a second to yourself because you’re learning how to adapt with a little one and that often means snatched moments of 30 second showers and bellowing for your other half to step in at some point. It sounds ridiculous, but when you first become a mum, you often feel like that means being a mum 24/7. And then once you’ve found your groove, you’re much happier to let go of the reins and take some ‘me’ time (for instance, I won’t be taking 30 second showers when this second baby comes along, I will be enjoying a decent soak). This is where buying some products for the tresses are a fab idea; you can sort of, preen on the go. Plus there’s the whole less time for hair washing/4 month hair loss thing to combat. We need all the help we can get. My suggestions are as follows;
It’s a little known fact that once you procreate you have to own ALL the merchandise, it makes you feel part of the gang and you just can’t beat a supportive slogan. Mugs, tees, bags, badges; we all like to bear a little nod to other mums and the sassier the better quite frankly. This is all about the sisterhood. The brilliant thing too is that the majority of the stuff comes from small brands and parent-led businesses, so you’re giving back to someone just like you. My suggestions would be;
That’s right, flasks. Because Trump will be eloquent before you get to drink a hot cup of tea in those first few months and a good ol’ camping flask is really the only way to try and combat that. THANKFULLY, they make drink vessels with a bit of feminine flair these days rather than your usual khaki number, so your friend won’t wonder if style’s completely passed you by when you lovingly hand it to her. These three would be my go-to’s;
If you quite like the idea of a cutesy little package showing up all neatly presented with care and an abundance of tissue paper/those spirally cardboardy things, then gift boxes are the ones for you. There are some amazing ones for mums available at the moment, which tap in to all the different things women deem treats post birth and are ordinarily practical to boot too. It means you’re giving about 5 gifts in one go (which is obviously no bad thing) and stops you having to worry about it not looking presentable if you’re a horrendous wrapper (like myself). More often than not too, you can tailor/tweak them to suit the personality of the person on the receiving end; it’s a lovely personal bundle. My suggestions would be as follows;
If you can cook food and leave it on the doorstep of your mum friend, do so. You don’t need to knock, just drop off the goods and drop a text to let them know (so it doesn’t y’know… congeal). However; if you can’t then foodie vouchers are a total godsend. No fuss, no actual thought and fresh ingredients to keep your mate and her family ticking over; you’ve basically just morphed yourself in to a fairy godmother. Obviously it’s not the cheapest option and I wouldn’t recommend signing yourself up for a year long membership, but you can treat them to a couple of weeks if you want to be super helpful and wonderful. My suggestions would be as follows;
And then let’s not forget the miscellaneous
Earplugs (your friend will LOL, but honestly… a baby crying through the muffled noise of earplugs is SO much more manageable). A litter picker, so bending down/reaching for just-out-of-reach items doesn’t drive your pal to distraction, a hand held fan (you get night sweats a lot just after giving birth), a teeny tiny make-up bag with equally tiny samples/mirror and tweezers in case she wants to perk herself up from the sofa should anyone turn up with little notice.