I Dress My Son In Girl Clothes
On Saturday, my son Milo was featured on Strictly Come Dancing, ‘showing Greg how to spin’. Of course it mainly just involved him legging it round an exercise room squealing and jumping off a box, but with a lot editing it ended up being some lovely footage. He always enjoys going to see his Daddy dancing and ‘Natty’ has now ended up firmly placed at the top of his ‘women I most like to flirt with’ list; he had a whale of a time.
We’re growing Milo’s hair at the moment and it’s pretty unruly. Reminiscent of Worzel Gummidge if Worzel had just been on an open top helicopter ride, that sort of thing. We’ll get it trimmed and styled at some point, but it won’t be going any shorter and in the grand scheme of things, ensuring the two year old human we look after has neat tresses doesn’t feature too highly given that thanks to our schedule we barely get a moment to wash our bits. So when we were ready to go along to film, I popped it up in a top knot (a style he regularly rocks at home when I realise his fringe is acting like a forehead shield) and off we went.
I expected a lot of criticism for this; I was braced, prepared and in no way bothered. I know a top knot for a little boy is still a bit iffy and of course, well aware it makes my cherub-faced son resemble a girl. I’m not a total moron and I do have the ability to see. The thing that did surprise me though, was the backlash I received for his outfit and the fact I apparently, dress my son ‘in girl clothes’.
So first up, let’s cover what he wore. A red top from Bobo Choses with black trees dotted all over it, a cactus vest by Indikidual underneath, white and black leggings from Fred And Noah and a pair of boots from AKID brand. All of which I’m pretty sure are unisex. And here are some of the comments;
Katie12 – At that age choices are made by the parents. I did think it was a little girl mainly the clothes
Lucy – He looked and was dressed like a girl!
Patriot001 – Why was the child dressed and deliberately made to appear as if he was a girl. Did the mother want a girl? I found the child’s appearance disturbing.
Eva Waite – Greg, tell your wife to grow up, she’s not a Kardashian trash bag, get the boys hair cut and put some boy clothes on him, the child looked a mess. Like as if she wanted a girl so she’s going to mess with his head!
FromTheHeart – When I watched last night I thought I had misheard, and honestly thought it was a girl! I know boys do have long hair… but the clothes are very girlie too! Perhaps his wife wanted a daughter!!
So, that was a few of them, I think you get the picture.
One point to make firstly, I love that dressing the child falls on Mum. Like Greg lays out camouflage tracksuits each morning in the hope I might waiver and I beat him in to submission with something purple and frilly ’til he pisses off to dance training. Greg and I both love fashion and Milo’s dad is more than happy for him to wear the clothes in his wardrobe.
Secondly, I don’t think boys should stick to blue, black, trucks, robots, footballs and monsters. Of course, we do love all that stuff, but so will any future daughter of ours (if we happen to have one). Milo does wear blue, he just didn’t happen to that day. Actually, his boots were blue, bright blue. So there… YOU’VE GOT SOME BLUE, GUYS.
Thirdly, actually, I’m really not that fussed about having a daughter. If I do, that’s bloody great. If I just have boys, that’s bloody great too.
Fourthly (is that a word? Going with it), yes, fashion when you’re a toddler isn’t your responsibility. Greg and I dress our son so he gets put in the items we choose. Once he’s a little older, he’ll be able to pick clothes out and decide how he wants his hair and all the power to him! If he wants to resemble a mini warrior then that’s his decision, if he wants to wear a tutu then I’m sure he’ll pull it off fantastically.
Fifthly, pretty relieved profesh Daily Mail perusers dislike how I dress my child. Because unless I’m much mistaken the majority probably wear Voi jeans and anything which includes a swastika.
Sixthly, we’re all different when it comes to what we wear, it’s often a reflection of our personalities and a peek in to our inner beings. Most people respect that, and if someone dresses their child differently to how I dress Milo then that’s totally OK! Don’t worry Daily Mail readers/Twitter commentators; I’m not about to force a *mini sick* RED top on your penis-ed child, no abuse is about to happen here. I’ll keep it all back for my own son. I personally detest anything which bears television characters and tracksuit trousers make me antsy. I don’t like putting Milo in anything which has a visible logo and I don’t like anything too matchy. Some of my friends on the other hand, will think my choices are dire and I respect that, but to suggest I dress my child as a different GENDER is a bit cray.
I wonder whether Terry from Bradford sat watching Strictly Come Dancing the other night and bellowed ‘Brenda, c’mere, that ginger jumper’s son looks like a bloody gurl! What the fook’s going on? He’s wearing a gurl top!’ and will then rock his, er, red Man Utd football shirt in a few weeks time. Or whether Karen from Darlington would have still shuddered at my son’s appearance if he was clad in the same garms yet wielding a shaved head and monster truck. I don’t know, it’s tricky to tell.
All I do know for sure is that normal people dress their children in however way they so wish and respect that others do the same. I love following accounts on Instagram where other mums bring originality to their offspring’s wardrobes (the likes of Kimberley from MiniMagpieKids for example) and the majority of emails/comments I receive are based around Milo’s outfits. Most modern parents these days are excited by kids’ fashion because there’s so many more choices and it’s so much fun, gone are the days where you had to wrestle clunky jeans on a four month old or own countless white romper suits with a naff teddy print.
Finally, in no way did the remarks from Daily Mail readers upset me, let me make that clear. I’m safe in the knowledge Milo’s trendy (I can use that word now I’m a mum) and even if he wasn’t, he’s happy. And that’s all that matters. The VT from the other night showed a cheerful, vibrant young boy-girl and that’s enough to keep my spirits soaring. I can gladly confirm I dress my son in ‘girl clothes’.